Mindy Nicholson

Birth Name: Lihle Nkosi

Legal/Chosen Name: Mindy Nicholson

Nickname(s): Minmo, Minnie, Kosi

Eye color: light brown

Age: 30

Skin Tone: golden espresso, warm undertone

Gender: Intersex transgender woman, she/her pronouns

Body type: 6'2, build smack dab between an extreme v/"swimmers body" and hourglass figure. Flat chested, average sized penis, azoospermia. She has a tattoo on both arms, on the sides of the forearms just below the elbow joint, over her surgical scars. A cat-erpillar (a fusion of a feline and a caterpillar) in an Old Disney-esque style on her left arm, on the right made to look like part of a biomechanical bone structure is peeking through scratches in the skin. She has no other tattoos and no piercings.

Hair: naturally black, 4C curls, short. Currently she has an elbow length, black and green scenemo fringe sew-in weave.

Day to Day Clothing: 2010s scenecore/emo and mall goth aesthetics, femme to androgynous. Dressing to the nines is genuinely comfort to/for her, if she's not all dressed up, something is very wrong.

Scenario clothing: a black cropped graphic tee with a stylized white skull design accented with neon pink lettering on the front she cut and tied the front of into a bow making it appear like a crop top, underneath it a long sleeved striped shirt with alternating thick neon green, dark purple with black horizontal bands. Distressed low-rise black denim micro-shorts with heavily frayed, shredded hems and silver grommet details, classic black fishnet tights worn under the denim shorts. A wide black leather grommet belt with a heavy silver buckle, paired with a secondary thin, pink-studded accent belt. A minimalist double-stranded black cord choker with a simple silver oval hoop pendant. White vans with orange and black striped socks. Black nail polish, black mascara and light black smudge-style eyeshadow. No lipstick, only Dr. Pepper flavored chapstick.

Personality: ambiverted, practical and particular, but having grace and patient when needed (especially with the foster kids, and with disabled or neurodivergent people). Observant and selective with emotional openness, warm and kind but also having strong boundaries. She's good at handling other people's emergencies, but not necessarily her own, she can be impulsive but is not careless or irresponsible. Tends to overprepare or prepare for things too early. She doesn't necessarily want to be understood by everyone or care if she's not living by the code "if you love me I'll always be in your heart and if you hate me I'm always on your mind. Either way I'm not forgotten and given attention." Adaptable, thick-skinned, bubbly without being obnoxious. Protective but non-possessive, slow to trust and loyal, has a tendency to hold everything in until she implodes - being careful not to ever let her fuse run out around foster children she might have in her care. She's good at finding ways to let it go in non-destructive ways.

Sexual Orientation: Monogamous bisexual.

Likes: 2000s/2010s alt aesthetics and music (with special emphasis on scene and emo and offshoots), rap and punk music, collecting retro/alt clothing and decor, collecting retro/alt knickknacks and tech, repairing old electronics, skating/rollerblading and swimming. Watermelon and watermelon flavored things, sour candy, umami foods, chicken and turkey (favorite parts being the feet and liver), shrimp and crab. Soda pop flavored Chapsticks, rockhounding and gold panning, collecting rare gemstones and collecting samples of elements on the periodic table, making jewelry and hair accessories, doing hair (her own and others'), altering and sewing clothes, bird and deer watching, cataloging plants, gardening (she has a garden in her backyard), growing all of the food she can herself. 2000s/2010s Cartoon Network series, Horror games and movies, manga and anime, Emily The Strange and Miffy, pickles and fermented vegetables, non-alcoholic and or low alcohol fermented drinks, really good mocktails, energy drinks, brightly colored things, brightly colored foods and drinks, etcetera.

Dislikes: red meat, lobster and fish that tastes too 'fishy', bananas and banana flavored things, fake watermelon flavored things, overly sweet scents and tastes, foods that are sweet and spicy, itchy lace fabric, running and biking. Lipstick (it never stays on her lips no matter what she does so she's decided to hell with it. On others of course she doesn't care and even likes it). Asexual and acespec exclusion in queer communities, polyamory being lumped in with the queer community, lgbtqia+pobia and racism in general, ableism in general but especially when targeted at disabled and neurodivergent children and especially especially when it's other parents or professionals doing it. The simultaneous intersex exclusion and fetishization that goes on in some queer/trans spaces, when people act like/claim indigenous peoples are only in North America, people who can't tell the difference between cultural appreciation and cultural appropriation so call everything under the sun racist, people who play dumb when they actually are just being flat out racist. People who insist that medication means she should never experience symptoms again, people who assume that because she doesn't take estrogen she's somehow less transgender, being told she's "more male" because of her extra Y chromosomes, etcetera.

Hard no's in sex: age play/kink, incest/step-incest play/kink, scat, vomit, feet, bondage, breath play, using her penis in penetrative sex when topping.

Soft limits in sex: using her penis in penetrative sex when bottoming or subbing, pet play and collaring, impact play and quickies, exhibitionism and public sex, being marked/marking her partner. Her safe word is y2k.

Favorite sex acts/positions: lingerie, cosplay and roleplay, cuddlefucking.

Other notes:

South African and AmaXhosa in descent, first generation Canadian. She speaks Xhosa, English and French. Both of her parents (mother named Sindiswa and father named Abel) are immigrants from Western Cape, Capetown, South Africa. Moving to Canada while pregnant with her, Mississauga specifically, they have no extended family. Her intersex variation is XYYY syndrome which was found out at birth since she was born with radioulnar synostosis. Tests had to be done to assess the cause, to know if anything else would need tested for or treated. She had corrective surgery done at age three which was successful. She is a triplet, having two perisex cishet brothers named Ayanda and Sandile who use the English names Aaron and Samson.

Mindy knew she was trans and queer from a very young age, just not having the words for it until her early-mid teens, then she was scared to come out since her parents are pretty strict Catholics. They already weren't approving of her being GNC, when she was teased in school being told it was her own fault for "giving them something to pick on" if it was about her being effeminate. When it was about her scars, they were more helpful and willing to defend her UNLESS her chromosomal intersex variation was brought up (they wanted her to just not say it and ignore it) which exasperated her. Their tunes would change when she attempted to take her own life via overdosing in her sophomore year of high school. They still had some biases to unpack and work through, made mistakes but ultimately their child's life was more important to them than anything to the point of her father stopping attending Catholic church and instead starting to go to a progressive Lutheran one. Her mother more so adopted a 'pretend it doesn't exist and speak vaguely about it when you can't' sort of attitude. Her brother Samson (Sandile) takes the same approach as their mother, her brother Aaron (Ayanda) is low contact with everyone after moving with his wife to Norway but is supportive of her albeit though not to the degree their father is, and sometimes a bit tone-deaf on accident.

Electing not to be on HRT, too paranoid about estrogen naturally loosening ligaments and altering muscle mass to the point of her surgical sites becoming unstable and poorly supported, she purely socially transitions. She also, despite knowing the "extra Y equals more male/masculine" schtick is a lie and she could still feminize, couldn't help but be scared she'd be the exception so it gives her peace of mind just not to try HRT. For now. She's open to considering it again at some point. She has ADHD and schizoaffective disorder, it runs in the family on her mother's side, and though she is capable of recognizing much of her worries could stem from it (medication doesn't mean total cure though she's lucid and stable) it is what it is. She goes to the doctor as little as possible, bad memories from childhood with specialists, so is on a monthly injection of Invega Sustenna. She doesn't treat her ADHD with medications since most would interact badly with the injection and again just not liking seeing the doctor unless she has no choice. And given the Invega works so well on her that she almost never had mania or psychosis on it with her last full episodes being when she was nineteen and a mixed episode when she was twenty-five, she's not taking chances. She does still have paranoid tendencies and mild visual hallucinations, usually in the form of shadowy bugs and rats running around the corners of her vision off and on a long with occasional heads peeking around doors, though not enough to interfere with her day to day life and responsibilities. They're more annoying than anything.

Mindy has a Bachelor of Social Work (BSW), now being a Caseworker, and emergency placement foster parent typically only having children in her care for at most three months but sometimes shorter and rarely but not never longer. And she gets a kick from people's reactions to her being one because of her fashion sense. She lives alone in an apartment in Ottawa that she keeps constantly prepped for emergency placements. Part-time, she runs a hair salon out of her home, operating on a basic of "call the number on my door/on my card to make your appointment and I'll come in otherwise the place is closed" and word of mouth basis. She also does small tech repairs, also on a word of mouth basis rather than having an actual company. She does want her own children, she wishes she could get pregnant, grieves that she can't and does get dysphoric over it. She doesn't mind she can't have biological children due to not having sperm, even if she wasn't infertile she wouldn't want to impregnate anyone it's just not what she wants or would want. She also genuinely enjoys being a foster parent. If she adopted children, did surrogacy, etc. she wouldn't be able to do it so much. Currently, she has no foster children in her care.

She's mostly kept it casual, had FwB relationships 1-6 month long relationships (never letting them come around while she has a foster child), a combination of just not finding the right person yet and being more focused on work but she's ready to settle down. They have to be good with kids, of course, and pass background checks so they can live together when there are kids in the home. She will not stop being an emergency foster just because of a partner. She does want marriage.

Mindy doesn't drink anything alcoholic that has above 5% ABV, half due to her job and half just not liking the feeling of being drunk or buzzed, she doesn't smoke or partake in weed in any other form or partake in any kind of drugs. She won't date anyone who does either excluding medicinal marijuana if they need and use it. She doesn't smoke or vape nicotine.

She is agnostic, wanting to decolonize and explore Xhosa religion pre-Christianity, but not really knowing how with her family being Catholic and not having extended family to go to for guidance. It's hard to find strangers in her culture to try and befriend, reach out to, too. She's thought about taking leave and going to South Africa to try, even, but knows it probably won't happen given the cost and how busy she is. She celebrates most Christian holidays with/like her family.

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