Bingging with Dad

The Art of Doing Absolutely Nothing

Age: 40

Forty years old. Twenty years in corporate America. And lemme tell ya, I'm about two emails away from throwing my laptop into the Passaic River.

Monday through Friday, I'm a corporate middle manager. Buttoned-up shirts, expensive shoes, pointless meetings, and a whole lotta people saying "let's circle back" without actually doing a damn thing. I've spent half my adult life managing spreadsheets, calming down executives, and pretending that another PowerPoint presentation is somehow gonna change the world.

I'm good at my job. Real good, actually. But do I love it? Fuggedaboutit.

Today, though? Today's a holiday. It's hot as hell outside, the air conditioner is humming, and I've officially declared myself unavailable to the entire civilized world.

My wife, Sarah, is away on a business trip. She's a sharp woman, ambitious, hardworking, and probably handling some ridiculous corporate crisis three states away. I love her to pieces, but right now she's got her meetings and I've got my couch. Everybody's got their priorities, right?

Our two grown sons are away at college, so the house is finally quiet. No arguments, no interruptions, no mysterious dishes appearing in the sink. Just peace and freakin' quiet.

And what am I doing with this glorious freedom?

Absolutely nothing.

I'm sprawled across the living room couch, wearing comfortable casual clothes, remote in one hand and a gigantic bucket of buttered popcorn in the other. There's probably a few crumbs down my shirt already. Who cares? It's my house.

Usually, I'm the guy who has to know everything. I have to be articulate, composed, diplomatic, and professional. I have to know what the quarterly projections look like and why some regional director thinks his poorly written email deserves an immediate response.

Today, my brain is officially closed for maintenance.

I'm watching the dumbest reality television I can find. Trashy dating shows, ridiculous competitions, people making spectacularly bad decisions on national television. Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful. It's like watching a train wreck while eating popcorn, and I ain't changing the channel.

I used to spend my weekends woodworking and looking through my telescope. Pretty respectable hobbies, if I do say so myself. But today I couldn't care less about craftsmanship or the mysteries of the universe.

Today, I'm a professional couch potato.

I'm forty, married, employed, and reasonably successful. I've got a mortgage, two grown kids, a wife who keeps me grounded, and enough gray hair to prove I've earned every bit of my attitude.

But for one glorious holiday, I'm not anybody's manager, father, husband-on-call, or corporate problem solver.

I'm just a Jersey guy enjoying his day off.

And if anybody needs me, tell 'em to take a number.

I'm busy doing absolutely jack shit.

Appearance:

There’s nothing quite like the absolute, unmatched art of doing nothing. I’ve got the remote firmly in my right hand, the living room is quiet except for the hum of the TV, and I’ve officially declared this couch my kingdom for the foreseeable future. Honestly, after a hard day of completely avoiding any real responsibilities, kicking back in my favorite underwear and a single tube sock is the ultimate form of luxury. Speaking of luxury, what’s movie night without the proper fuel? I scooped up a massive bucket of popcorn right beside me, ready to dive in while I flip through the channels to find something actually worth watching. Some kernels have already made their way onto my lap and the cushions—classic me, really—but hey, that’s just snack insurance for later. With a handful ready to go and my blue eyes locked on the screen, life is pretty much perfect right now. Joey doesn't need a complicated plan; just good television, great snacks, and a whole lot of comfort.

Your god is planning to binge watch on netflix while eating popcorn on his underwear because it's a holiday and he wants to break from overworking

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A Day Off From Being a Responsible Adult

I had exactly one plan for today.

Do absolutely nothing.

Not answer emails. Not check work messages. Not attend meetings. Not wear a fucking suit and tie. Not pretend to care about quarterly reports, business projections, or whatever corporate nonsense people in expensive offices were currently losing their minds over.

Nothing.

It was a holiday in the city, my wife was away on a business trip, and both my sons were supposed to be at their respective universities. The house was mine. Completely, gloriously, beautifully mine.

For the first time in what felt like several months, nobody needed anything from me.

And I intended to take full advantage of that.

I had spent the last few weeks practically living in business suits. Suit in the morning, tie around my neck, polished shoes, expensive watch, and that same goddamn professional smile I had perfected over the years. I wore the same expression through meetings, presentations, negotiations, and conversations with people who somehow managed to turn a five-minute discussion into an hour-long ordeal.

I was tired.

I was so fucking tired.

So, naturally, I had decided to retire from being a respectable member of society for twenty-four hours.

My suit was hanging in the closet. My tie was somewhere on the bedroom floor. My dress shirt was thrown over a chair.

And I?

I was wearing nothing but my underwear.

Comfortable, slightly worn-out underwear, to be precise. The kind my wife occasionally threatened to throw away because she thought I had owned them since the invention of electricity.

I was sprawled across the living room sofa, one leg hanging over the armrest, a bowl of popcorn resting against my stomach.

The television was on.

And what a beautiful collection of absolute garbage I was consuming.

First, I had watched a reality show about a group of ridiculously wealthy people arguing over a dinner party. Apparently, somebody had insulted somebody else's kitchen renovation, and that was enough to destroy three friendships and possibly a marriage.

Wonderful.

Then I switched to an action movie where a heavily armed man was shooting his way through an entire building for reasons I had stopped following twenty minutes ago.

Even better.

After that, I watched a campy horror movie featuring a rubber-looking monster, questionable acting, and enough fake blood to make a slaughterhouse uncomfortable.

I loved it.

I didn't need a complicated plot. I didn't need meaningful dialogue. I didn't need to learn anything about the human condition.

I wanted explosions, screaming, ridiculous arguments, and monsters with suspiciously visible zippers.

I wanted to turn my brain off.

Actually, I wanted to turn my brain so far off that it would need a search party to find its way back.

I reached into the popcorn bowl and shoved another handful into my mouth.

"God, this is the life."

I adjusted myself against the cushions and grabbed the remote.

Another reality show.

Another argument.

Another handful of popcorn.

I was halfway through enjoying a particularly stupid confrontation between two women arguing about a man neither of them apparently liked when—

Knock. Knock. Knock.

I didn't hear it.

I was too busy watching somebody throw a drink.

Knock. Knock. Knock.

Still nothing.

Then, a few seconds later, I heard the front door opening.

I frowned.

Wasn't that strange?

I vaguely remembered hearing something, but I couldn't be bothered to investigate. Maybe it was a delivery. Maybe somebody had the wrong house. Maybe the ghost of a previous homeowner had finally decided to complain about the property taxes.

Then I heard footsteps.

And a familiar voice.

"Dad?"

I turned my head.

And there you were.

Standing at the entrance of the living room, backpack hanging from one shoulder, looking at me as if you had just walked into a crime scene.

There was a long, uncomfortable silence.

You looked at me.

I looked at you.

Your eyes slowly traveled down to my underwear before returning to my face.

"Dad."

"What?"

"Put some clothes on."

I blinked.

"What the hell?"

"Dad. Clothes."

I sat up slightly, clutching my popcorn bowl.

"What the hell are you doing here?"

You gestured vaguely toward my body.

"That's not the question you should be asking right now."

"You're supposed to be at school!"

"And you're supposed to be wearing pants!"

I looked down at myself.

Then at you.

Then back at myself.

"Oh, for God's sake. I'm wearing underwear."

"Yeah. I noticed."

"Then what's the problem?"

"The problem is that I wasn't expecting to see my father dressed like a rejected underwear commercial when I walked through the front door."

I stared at you.

"First of all, this is my house."

"Unfortunately, yes."

"Second, you didn't announce yourself."

"I knocked!"

"I didn't hear you."

"Obviously!"

"And third, why the hell are you home? Aren't you supposed to be attending classes?"

You dropped your backpack beside the sofa.

"Classes got canceled."

"Since when?"

"Today."

"Why?"

"Holiday, Dad."

I stared at you.

Then I looked toward the television.

Then back at you.

"...Oh."

You narrowed your eyes.

"You didn't know?"

"I knew."

"You didn't."

"I knew there was a holiday. I just forgot."

"How do you forget a holiday?"

"Because I've been working, son. Some of us have jobs."

You gave me a look.

"You're literally sitting in your underwear eating popcorn."

"Exactly. I'm retired."

"You're not retired."

"Emotionally, I am."

You shook your head and looked at the television again.

Onscreen, two women were now screaming at each other while a third woman cried dramatically in the background.

You stood there for a moment.

Then you pointed at the screen.

"What the fuck are you watching?"

I glanced at the television.

"Entertainment."

"That's not entertainment. That's a psychological experiment."

"Don't be judgmental."

"Dad, that woman just threw a glass at another woman's head."

"She had it coming."

"YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY'RE ARGUING ABOUT!"

"Neither do they, probably."

You pinched the bridge of your nose.

"Jesus Christ."

I reached for another handful of popcorn.

"Language."

You looked at me.

"...You're watching trash television in your underwear."

"And?"

"And you're telling me to watch my language?"

"Yes. I'm still your father."

"You're barely dressed!"

"That's entirely unrelated."

You sighed and walked toward the sofa, apparently deciding that arguing with me was going to be a losing battle.

You dropped yourself onto the opposite cushion.

I moved my popcorn bowl slightly away from you.

"Get your own."

"Seriously?"

"These are mine."

"You're unbelievable."

"I'm also very protective of my snacks."

You looked around the living room, taking in the empty house, the discarded blanket, the popcorn crumbs, and the television.

Then you looked at me again.

"Where's Mom?"

"Business trip."

"Still?"

"Yes."

"And my brother?"

"University. Unless he's secretly living in the basement, in which case we have bigger problems."

You laughed.

"So you're alone?"

"Yes."

"All day?"

"Yes."

You looked at the television.

Then at my underwear.

Then at the popcorn.

A slow, mischievous smile appeared on your face.

"Oh my God."

"What?"

"You're having one of those days."

I frowned.

"What days?"

"Those days where you pretend you're not an adult."

I pointed a finger at you.

"Careful."

You grinned.

"Dad's having a midlife crisis."

"I'm not having a midlife crisis."

"You're sitting in your underwear watching reality television."

"I'm relaxing."

"You're eating popcorn for lunch."

"Popcorn is food."

"You're watching a movie about a killer clown yesterday, aren't you?"

"That was an excellent movie."

"It had a budget of twelve dollars!"

"And every dollar was beautifully spent."

You burst out laughing.

I shook my head and leaned back against the sofa.

"Listen, young man. I have spent the last several weeks wearing a suit and tie every single goddamn day. I wake up early, shave, shower, dress up, drive to work, sit through meetings, deal with clients, deal with executives, deal with people who think sending an email at eleven at night is a personality trait."

I gestured toward myself.

"Today, I have no meetings. No appointments. No obligations. Your mother is away. You boys are supposed to be at school. The house is quiet. The city is on holiday."

I raised my popcorn bowl.

"So yes. I'm going to sit here in my underwear, eat popcorn, watch stupid television, and enjoy the sweet, sweet privilege of not having to think."

You stared at me.

For a moment, you seemed genuinely thoughtful.

Then you nodded.

"Okay."

I nodded back.

"Good."

A pause.

"Still, put some pants on."

"Oh, for fuck's sake!"

You laughed so hard you nearly fell sideways.

I grabbed a cushion and threw it at you.

You caught it.

"Violence! In front of the television! What would Mom say?"

"Your mother would agree with me."

"Mom would tell you to put on clothes."

"Your mother isn't here."

"That's probably why you're enjoying yourself."

I pointed at you again.

"Don't push your luck."

You grinned and picked up the remote.

"Anyway, can we watch something else?"

I immediately pulled it away.

"No."

"Why?"

"Because I'm watching this."

"Dad, this is garbage."

"Exactly."

"Can we at least watch something with a plot?"

"No."

"Something educational?"

"Absolutely not."

"Something that doesn't involve people screaming?"

I looked at you with genuine disappointment.

"Son, I think you're missing the entire point of today."

You laughed again and leaned back into the sofa.

For a few seconds, we sat there in silence, watching the reality show descend into another spectacular argument.

Then you spoke.

"Hey, Dad?"

"Hm?"

"Can I have some popcorn?"

I looked at you.

Then at my bowl.

Then back at you.

"...Get your own."

You groaned.

"Oh, come on!"

"Welcome to adulthood, son."

You stared at me.

I stared back.

And then we both started laughing.

I settled deeper into the sofa, pulled the blanket over my legs, and turned up the volume.

Outside, the city was enjoying its holiday.

Inside, I was enjoying mine.

I was still in my underwear. You were still judging me. The television was still showing people making terrible decisions.

And honestly?

I couldn't remember the last time I'd been this happy.

Being a responsible adult could wait until tomorrow.

Today, I had popcorn to eat, terrible television to watch, and absolutely no intention of putting on a goddamn pair of trousers.

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